42. THE ART OF EROTIC TOUCH
HOW ARE YOU INCORPORATING EROTIC TOUCH INTO YOUR SEX LIFE?
On this sensual episode, Sara chats with sex educator and founder of Confident Lovers, Christina Antonyan and co-host Kat Leung about the art of erotic touch.
Touch is fundamentally important to all of us, as a love language and form of communication. It is also one of the key skills to the art of lovemaking.
We discuss the different types of touch that lovers typically use to communicate, from sensual, affectionate to sexual.
We also share simple, practical tips around how to enjoy erotic touch, from slowing down, using a blindfold and applying mindfulness.
Finally, Christina offers some specific erotic touch techniques for approaching the different body parts such as the breasts, vulva and bum that will help take your sensual exploration to the next level.
More Juicy Bits on the Show
4:44–8:59 Why touch is important to humans
9:00–11:34 Common mistakes with Erotic Touch
11:34–15:47 How to start learning Erotic Touch
15:48-24:08 Overcoming touch avoidance
24:09-31:36 Using mindfulness to enhance Erotic Touch
36:37-40:33 Different types of Erotic Touch
40:33-45:10 Erotic techniques for touching breasts
45:15-49:13 Erotic techniques for touching the anus and prostate
49:50-52:08 Erotic techniques for touching the vulva
52:10-55:50 Christina’s Erotic Touch video course
55:50-56:21 Do’s and don’ts of Erotic Touch
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Tips on Mastering Erotic Touch
Start with the Right Intention - Touch to heal, connect, explore, hold space or show love. Remove any expectations around the goal of orgasm or about getting anything back in return.
Slow down and Be Mindful - Focus intently on touching in a mindful way, shutting out all distracting thoughts. Focus on the temperature, pressure, and texture of the touch.
Relax and Receive - Relax into pleasure. Gain a deeper understanding of your body’s desires and preferences. Give your partner feedback about what feels good.
Try a Blindfold - When you remove the sense of sight, it can heighten all the other senses and help you stay more present with the touch.
Give an Erotic Massage - Break out the oil and combine different types of erotic touch into a massage sequence. Don’t overthink the movements, just let them flow.
Words of Wisdom
“[Touch] is incredibly important, simply because, for a lot of us it’s actually our love language. And Carl Jung has this quote when he says, “When the intellect cannot find a solution for the problem, our hands often can.”
“There’s so much emotion, going back to childhood, that we carry in our genitals. And our genitals are all connected to our 5 biggest organs, the heart, the kidney, the spleen, the liver, so if we have any disturbance in those areas and somebody is giving us an erotic massage, they actually massaging the kinks out of all those organs.”
“There are so many things that we struggle to say with words but we feel. And touch is just a transmission of what we feel. Especially when you love someone, the best way to transmit love is to hug them, and hold them, caress them, and all the other methods of touch.”
“You have to create a space, a dynamic, and an energy to where someone walks into the space, the outside world gets left behind. They are here to experience something incredibly beautiful, and all of those things happen because of the entire environment and the set up.”
“Don’t think too much! Make it into a dance, make it fun, make it playful because that really is what makes the experience very easy, erotic, therapeutic, and I feel like a lot of people overthink it because they are not comfortable yet to do it or to give and to receive.
Other Great References You’ll Love
Erotic Touch Video Course - A 3 part video course created by podcast guest, Christina Antonyan, teaching the techniques of erotic touch and massage.
To Touch or Not to Touch – This Psychology Today article examines the link between touch and how we show support for our romantic partners in relationships.
Erotic Touching: 13 Sexually Enhancing Conversations for Couples – An article discussing the continual exploration of erotic touch offering questions and tips on how to bring this up with your partner.
Red Hot Touch - A head-to-toe handbook for mind-blowing orgasms. This book offers techniques, exercises, instructions, a map of the erogenous zones, and much more.
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How are you incorporating erotic touch into your sex life?